Why Colonel Brandon is my Mr. Darcy…

Why Colonel Brandon is my Mr. Darcy…

Having just finished writing my adaptation of Sense & Sensibility (due for publication in 2016), I have a confession to make: I have a crush on Colonel Brandon.

Sigh. Colonel Brandon.

 

There is something about his patience and quiet demeanor that is extremely romantic. Yes, yes, I can hear thousands of readers shaking their head and saying, “But Darcy…”

Trust me, Darcy comes in as a close second in my book. But Colonel Brandon takes the prize, however.

To begin with, he loved and lost while a young man. Rather than rebound or retaliate by speed dating just anyone, he quietly mourned the loss of the woman he loved and continued on with his life. He established himself as a gentleman, working his way up through the military ranks and, later, established himself as a gentleman. I’m all for people who climb the ladder of society based on their own merits and not just because it was given to them.

When I was a child, my father was adamant that I had to work for what I wanted in life. He hired me to work at his company when I was out of college and, despite having a college degree—something which many people at the company did not have—I was the lowest paid employee. Later, after I gained more experience, I left his company and began to springboard my way up different corporate ladders until I finally found my home in academia as a college professor and the director of faculty training at an eight-campus institution of higher education. And along the way, I earned two (and a half!) more degrees.

Achieving something on your own merit and from your own blood, sweat, tears, and stress is something to be proud of. Having worked with so many young people as they struggle to acquire an education, I have seen first hand the two types of people who are out there: those willing to work hard for their success and those that expect hand outs and lift ups from others.

Colonel Brandon was definitely the former.

But that’s not the only reason that I have a crush on him.

His patience in waiting for Marianne is admirable. Not many people are willing to sit by and patiently wait for their reward.

In today’s world, people seem to want (or expect) instant gratification without any sacrifice. I used to run a charity that helped people in inner cities and living in poverty in Appalachia. What always surprised me was that these people might not have food to put on the table but they seemed to always have money for a flat screen television and satellite dish.  The kids might be starving but they had their Nickelodeon and ESPN channels.

When Brandon nurses Marianne back to health, he holds no resentment for her having passed over his previous interest and attempts to woo her. His affections for Marianne are so strong that, rather than be jealous that she had loved another man, he overlooks that and captures the prize by being steadfast and honorable, unlike his predecessor.

To me, that is the essence of romance.

There is so much that we can learn from reading and re-reading Jane Austen’s books. Timeless classics are timeless for a reason. In Sense & Sensibility, Colonel Brandon has a very important message for all of Austen’s readers, one that is good to remember from time to time, especially when things do not go the way that we always want (or as fast as we want!): The best things in life are the ones that we earn for ourselves, no matter how long it takes.

Question: What do YOU think is the essence of romance? 

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Trudy
May 26, 2016 1:24 AM

Col. Brandon is my favorite Austen hero for many of the reasons you explain. Quiet, patient, self-reliant, vulnerable yet strong, passionate yet self-controlled. He was always doing good — doing whatever he felt was of benefit to others. Self-sacrificing. He had no way of knowing he would get his reward, and yet he kept on doing what he could for the one he loved. True and undying integrity and devotion. And such tenderness from a man! Sigh.
He is second only to Gaskell’s Mr Thornton on my short list of romantic literary heroes.

klb0823
December 17, 2015 9:41 AM

I, too, thought the whole Eliza thing a bit creepy. Steadfast? I thought him a bit more obsessed, stalker-like. Fallen Eliza 2 was taken care of because she was Fallen Eliza 1’s daughter, and again, going after a third young woman who has made a fool of herself before society chasing after a man, ruining her reputation. He seems to have a thing for fallen/ruined women. Maybe a savior complex here? Obviously, I am not a fan of S & S at all (don’t get me started on Edward Ferrars) but it hit too many discordant notes with me when considering motives in the story.

Sharon Lathan
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June 28, 2015 7:47 PM

Austen had a true gift in writing heroes who are so very different, yet all equally wonderful. Colonel Brandon is in my top favs too, although it is really tough to choose! Darcy is #1, of course, but Wentworth and Brandon tie, I think. But then there is Henry Tilney….. and Knightley…. and…. oh dear!

Deborah Fortin
June 27, 2015 11:25 AM

Darcy will always be my favorite (my DH is so much like him….so yes I am biased), but I do like Brandon….patient and exceedingly loyal. A brooding leading man with few, if any vices. A very good message indeed, the best things in life are not granted instantaneously, they have to be earned and waited for. Thank you for this wonderful post about Col. Brandon.

Sheila L. M.
Sheila L. M.
June 25, 2015 11:56 AM

I love that not only was Col. Brandon a man who lost but didn’t turn to depression or booze or womanizing but also then took care of his love’s daughter. And he was not aggressive in telling Elinor or Marianne what he knew about Willoughby from the get-go. I also like that Darcy not only changed his character and behavior due to Elizabeth’s rant but also that he took care of the Lydia debacle without wanting Elizabeth to know about it b/c he didn’t want her gratitude. Mr. Knightley and Emma had no secrets – their personalities were open so no changes were made…although I do hope he got her to attack her reading list most earnestly. Emma did care for the people around her and would be a good mistress to the estate, visiting the tenants and sending baskets, etc.

Monica Perry
Monica Perry
June 24, 2015 6:42 PM

I love Colonel Brandon, too! He’s really underappreciated, maybe because he’s so much older than Marianne, it puts some people off? I love that he appreciates her vivacity and passion and doesn’t try to change her, or hurry her to grow out of it. He’s just there being himself, not really expecting anything, showing her through his actions that a real man is steadfast and selfless.

Diana Oaks
AuAu
June 24, 2015 2:15 PM

The thing that I have always loved about Colonel Brandon is his selflessness. He loved Marianne deeply but was more concerned with her happiness than his own. In his conversation with Elinor when he believes that Willoughby is engaged to Marianne, he says “to your sister I wish all imaginable happiness; to Willoughby that he may endeavour to deserve her.” His own unhappiness was evident to Elinor, yet Brandon expressed nothing of that. He is a man who faithfully serves those he loves, with no expectation of reciprocation or even gratitude. I agree that in his own way, he’s every bit as wonderful a hero as Darcy.

Leenie B
June 24, 2015 1:56 PM

I can’t say I have given Colonel Brandon much thought either to like or dislike his character. He was just there…steady, strong, reliable, patient…..which, when I do think about it, is very pleasant. Hmmm…he may have to be moved up on my list of favourites. 🙂

Brenda Webb
June 24, 2015 11:22 AM

I loved Alan Rickman’s portrayal of Col. Brandon (well I love AR in anything!) so I can see your point. As for being entitled, don’t get me started. 🙂

Jennifer
June 24, 2015 10:31 AM

I do like Brandon and like others am strongly influenced by Rickman’s portrayal. But that whole Eliza 1 and Eliza 2 and Marianne a possible Eliza 3 is just a little creepy. Other than that, I like a man in flannel.

Stephanie L
June 24, 2015 9:28 AM

I always think of Mr. Knightley first. He was Emma’s friend and loved her even when she was being stupid, petty and manipulative. When she pulls her head out and realizes what is real, her heart sees him first. No problem with communication between those two, they were used to bantering and baiting so the mood just changed. I love that. When I say Emma is my fave novel, I get a raised eyebrow but the book is named Emma not Mr. Knightley sooooo….LOL I’m also a fan of Col. Brandon. Darcy is 3rd. 🙂 I’m also a big fan of Elinor. I jokingly refer to myself as an Elinor/Lizzy mashup. Obstinate, headstrong girl with a practical and economic bent.

I work in finance in higher education and I see the entitlement so much its not even humorous anymore. The joy for me are the students who are awarded a scholarship on merit and they are nearly in tears from the news. Like you, I worked with a charity, but mine was Letters from Santa. We would get letters from (local) kids that needed food or (one of the most heartbreaking) wrote the letter because he had given his only shoes to the girl next door because she didn’t have any. But then when we would go to do a Santa drop they had 60″ televisions and brand new iPhones and the kid was wearing socks to school in place of shoes and eating breakfast when he got there because there was no food at home. I just don’t understand it. Rant over. O:-)

charlene capodice
charlene capodice
June 24, 2015 9:14 AM

yes patience is definitely a virtue that is wonderful to find in a man

carylkane
carylkane
June 24, 2015 8:53 AM

Thank you for this interesting post about Colonel Brandon. I agree that patience is a great virtue!

Lilyane Soltz
Lilyane Soltz
June 24, 2015 7:58 AM

I, too, think Colonel Brandon is a wonderful man – and I always have. But I must admit, seeing Alan Rickman as Colonel Brandon (many times) has had a lot to do with my admiration. The question is: have Austen’s depictions been colored by film adaptations?

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