The Art of the Break-Up and Farewell

The Art of the Break-Up and Farewell

Years ago, when I was in college, my roommate was dating a guy in the Army Reserve. She called him a lot and occasionally met up with him, but his training schedule didn’t leave a lot of time for dating. She was patient, however, and figured she’d eventually get to spend more time with him. You can imagine her shock when his troop got called upon to serve in Desert Storm, and she only found out when she saw his picture on the front page of the newspaper. Even worse, he wasn’t the only one in the picture. His new bride stood beside him, dressed in a wedding gown. That’s right, he’d gotten married without even breaking up with my friend. It seems like something straight out of a Jane Austen novel. (Think Willoughby neglecting to break up with Marianne and Lucy Steele doing the same to Edward at the end of Sense and Sensibility.)

As long as you’re not personally involved, bad break-ups can be very entertaining. Who doesn’t love to read the awkward conversation between Elizabeth and Mr. Collins or Emma and Mr. Elton? Other times, I feel quite sorry for the one getting rejected. Jane Austen’s heroines could be so blunt.

One good thing about the break-ups in Jane Austen novels, though, is that the heroines come straight out and say how they feel. Elizabeth doesn’t ghost Mr. Darcy or string him along, as often happens now. I once chaperoned a high school dance and witnessed a boy who showed up nicely dressed in a suit with flowers and candies. He waited an hour or more for his date, his face falling by the minute. She never showed up. The redeeming part of that evening was that other girls took pity on him and asked him to dance. He ended up having a good time, but I’m sure the scar remains. The lesson I took away from the evening is to teach my kids that if the relationship isn’t working out for them, just come out and say it.

While Regency break-ups didn’t seem to leave a lot of room for compliments, I think it’s a good idea to break up in the nicest way possible. Leafing through some of my old letters a while ago, I found a break-up letter from one of the men I dated before I got married. He had taken the time to write out the reasons he had wanted to date me in the first place as well as the reasons he’d decided to end our relationship. It was a very sweet letter that left me feeling happy, and I wish everyone could be so lucky to break up in that way.

As my time with Austen Authors comes to a close, I have nothing but love and gratitude in my heart. I feel so blessed to have been a part of this group of remarkable authors and to have met so many wonderful readers. I appreciate all the hard work Sharon and Regina put into the website. I wish I could keep participating, but my work has gotten busier and family demands seem to be increasing as well. I know many other authors would love to fill my spot here on Austen Authors, and I want to give them that opportunity. Thank you all for the wonderful interactions I’ve enjoyed here!

After today, you can find me at my personal website: rebeccahjamison.com. My books are available at amazon.com.

 

 

 

 

Sharing is Caring!
Facebook
Twitter
Pinterest
Whatsapp
LinkedIn
Follow by Email
0 0 votes
RATE THIS POST!
SUBSCRIBE (optional)
Email alert of:
guest

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

14 COMMENTS
Inline Feedbacks
View all comments
darcybennett
darcybennett
December 24, 2019 9:06 AM

I had one bad breakup in my life where I ended a longtime, serious relationship. I tried my best to let him down gently but that didn’t really work as I ended up feeling so bad that I recanted. By the time, he accepted we were over, it was very acrimonious.

Gianna Thomas
AuAu
December 15, 2019 3:10 PM

Wishing the best for you and your family, Rebecca. <3

Sharon Lathan
Admin
December 15, 2019 9:38 AM

Rebecca, We will miss you so very very much! You joined us when we got this blog back on track so many years ago, and the journey has been truly amazing. Thank you a million times over for being an integral part of our success. Please do not be a stranger! I wish you well in all of our future endeavors and will always consider you my friend. Much love, and have a VERY Merry Christmas. XO, Sharon

carylkane
carylkane
December 14, 2019 8:31 PM

Rebecca, you will be missed. Best wishes on your new adventure!

Summer Hanford
December 14, 2019 10:58 AM

I wish you all the best, Rebecca. That was a very sweet post. Good luck with work, and enjoy your family and friends.

Buturot
Buturot
December 13, 2019 7:41 PM

You’ll be missed. Good luck to you. I hope we will continue to see more of your works in Amazon.

Linda A.
Linda A.
December 13, 2019 4:53 PM

Thank you for sharing examples of the good, bad and ugly ways to break up. There is always something to learn, even if it is what NOT to do. Good luck! We will miss you.

J. W. Garrett
J. W. Garrett
December 13, 2019 3:10 PM

Ah, man. I just wrote the nicest comment and lost it. Well, you will just have to take my word for it [snicker]. I wish you all the best in your new endeavor. We are sorry to lose you but understand completely that family and responsibilities must come first. Blessings, my dear. Dang! This isn’t half as nice as my other comment. Well, that’s the way of technology. You made me smile and I hope I have done the same for you. See you!

reginajeffers
Admin
December 13, 2019 11:34 AM

I know you will experience success wherever your experiences take you, Rebecca. I also know you will be sorely missed. Remember the door swings both ways. We would welcome you back with open arms.

cindie snyder
cindie snyder
December 13, 2019 8:01 AM

I was the awkward one at school who never had a date! Good luck with your future endeavors Austen Authors will miss you.

14
0
Would love your thoughts, please comment.x
()
x